Wednesday, May 28, 2008

School Registration

Yesterday I registered the Butterfly for Kindergarten. She is going to be in an inclusion class which I pray will be the best fit for her. We shall see. I am very anxious about her starting school and pray that we have made the right decision. I have been reading a book called Damaged Angels by Bonnie Buxton. This book has opened my eyes so much to the effects Alcohol has on an unborn child. While reading this book I am finding that I am becoming so angry.I don't understand why people think it is OK to drink while pregnant. Alcohol is a tetragon that causes birth defects. Even when you read parenting books they misinform the public that a little alcohol is OK. The effects it has on a child are serious. My butterfly is showing these effects now. I appreciate the people in my life that have taken the time to learn about this and who understand her. Those that don't just look at her behavior and judge her or even my husband and I as her parents. We are doing the best that we can and are learning as much as we can.

Happy Birthday Speedy

I can't believe that I forgot to blog about this. We must not leave this out. What would poor Speedy think. A few weeks back we ( the whole family) were invited to Speedy's 3rd Birthday party. The kiddos were presented with invites that had dog bone shapes glitterized ( is that a word? if not it sounds cool) on them. Being the good sports that we are we decided to "humor" Sarah and join in on the fun. Hey, it was a party. Any excuse is a good one isn't it? Well, I think I would draw the line at a party for my pet hermit crab. We all know that Speedy is Joey and Sarah's kid. When we got there we were greeted by Mr. Speedy, His Mom and Pops and his Uncle Steven and friends that came all the way from Ohioooo for the even ( not really but it sounded good) We then proceeded to get into costume. If Speedy can have cute ears, well so can we. What fine ears they were too. The kids played pin the tail on Speedy. Thankfully it was just a picture of him otherwise people would be calling the animal abuse hot line. We had a dog gone good time singing " Who let the Dogs out?", How much is that "Doggie in the Window?" and many other fine Canine tunes. Sarah made a scrumptious bone shaped cake and speedy got special homemade doggie treats. He was in doggie heaven. He loved opening his presents and was very social. People even got to have photo opportunities with him. Happy Third Birthday Speedy.

Thursday, May 22, 2008

Prayers For the Chapmans

I am so sad today. I don't know if you have heard but Christian Singer Steven Curtis Chapman's Daughter was killed yesterday tragically in an accident in their driveway. I can't even begin to imagine what this family is feeling. Especially the son who was behind the wheel. It was clearly an an accident. Please keep this family in your prayers.

Friday, May 16, 2008

Art Academy Show

I am looking forward to a nice quiet weekend after the Crazy non stop one of last week. Our church has an Art Academy that offers classes to the community on Saturdays from Sept to May. Last Saturday was the year end show and all three of my children were involved. It required a full week of extra practices and dress rehearsal. My kids were exhausted to say the least. This is the time when an early bedtime is not good. Thank goodness it is only for a week. My kids do not cope well when they are out of their routine and when they stay up late. Saturday they performed two shows back to back and did a marvelous Job. Kiarrah did a ballet number to Radetsky's March. She then did a tap dance number to "He's got the Whole World in His Hands." Reynaldo did hip hop to " I am not forgotten" by Israel. They both did an amazingly good time and they really enjoyed themselves. Dominic had an art project on display. I can't wait to share a picture of it. It is amazing. I want to frame it and put it in my living room.

Our Saturdays are now free again until the Fall from classes. Rey is already saying that he would like to take Tap next year along with the Hip Hop. We would like to get Kiarrah into voice lessons. Dominic loves his art but would also like to take piano.

I am so happy that we are able to be a part of this awesome program and the kids are exposed to the arts.

Question of the Week

Ok, Miss Gracie is now almost 10 months and this poor child still hates taking her bath. She screams like a cat in heat. I have tried every way possible for her to enjoy it and no such luck. Any ideas?

The Charmer

I don't know if I mentioned lately what a "ladies little man" my younger son is. Whenever I take him to school he is always yelling hi to the little girls we pass along our walk and then when we get to the court yard they are always chasing him. When I picked him up yesterday his teacher informed me that he was caught passing notes to a little girl their that I know for a fact he likes. My God, this child is in 1st grade. It is cute but boy am I in for it as he gets older. Wait until the girls start trying to call this little charmer at our house. Forget about locking my girls in their room until they are 30, he is gonna need to be.

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

National Foster Care Month

May is National Foster Care Month.
Kari is starting a list of ideas on how you can Thank a Foster Parent. We all should do our part to help out. My husband and I were foster parents for many years and know first hand how you sometimes feel all alone and unappreciated. There are so many children out there that need forever families. Maybe that isn't for you but I am sure there are other things that can be done to help these families that are on the front line.

Feeling the stresses

I have been pretty behind on posting lately and before it builds up and I start forgetting things I thought I would play catch up. So much has been going on and I guess I have just been sticking with the safe comfy subjects and not getting into the meat of the matter. I guess when I do I start to feel weak or something. I am really struggling with myself as a parent. I realize my children have disabilities but whenever something happens I tend to take it to heart and feel that it reflects on me as a parent. Right away I wonder what I am doing wrong. I find myself becoming extremely anxiety ridden and wanting to close myself up in my bubble. It's hard because their disabilities are not visible physically. If an outsider were to look in I am sure they would feel that I had unruly children that are out of control. Out of control at times? Yes. Today I was reading Claudia's Blog and she had a post about Controlling only what you can control. This really struck home with me. I tend to be a control freak and freak out when things are out of control. I can't focus or function. I need to realize that I just can't control everything. I can model the behavior I expect for the kids but I don't control their actions or words. I can teach them what I expect of the them and raise them to be Godly fearing children but they have their own free will. If they choose to be disrespectful and disobedient that is there choice. It is them our job as parents to give them consequences for those choices. When they behave like this I need to stop blaming myself. I am doing the best that I can. I am not just dealing with one child with issues, I have three of them that do. It just seems like it is everything at once. I have one child who thinks he knows it all and is always quick to tell his father and I that we are stupid and he hates us and he wishes we weren't his parents. This is normal behavior I am sure but it just seems more intense then what I have seen. He is usually set off by being asked to do something such as clean his room ( which he refuses to do) or he is told no. We have taken away privileges and he just doesn't seem to care anymore. He is just downright rude.
My other child has taken to stealing and lying. He has taken candy from the corner store and other stores and has taken stuff from friends. At first he says they gave it to him. I always make him return things to the store and apologize but it is like he just doesn't get that it is wrong. No remorse. No impulse control. He flat out lies about it. No one is going to trust him and I tried to explain to him that people will always think it is him when something goes missing because he is giving himself a bad name. He is very angry. Especially at my husband. I have my guesses to what this is about but don't know how to fix it. We need some prayer over that.
To top all this off I have another child who is majorly lying and destroying property. She has taken her pencil and carved into my kitchen table and chairs, she has written on all my walls and she gets into everything and then lies. Yes I know to keep writing items away but it is hard to do in my house. I really try but the other kids use them and we have adults in and out of the house for different things and she will just sneak and find them. She also got into nail polish that was way out of her reach and eye shot and she painted on my couch pillow at 5 am. I woke up to the smell. She gets up at an awful hour every morning even if I put her to bed late. She is like clock work. She sneaks into food too. I feed this child. I have no clue why she is doing this. She has done this even as a small child. I had to get rid of her play refrigerator because she would sneak food and put it in there and I wouldn't know. I would open it and find bananas and yogurt and applesauce. When you ask her why she has done it she looks at you blank and says, I don't know! I didn't want to! I am trying so hard to have patience with her but we always will start out good and then she will continually do the same things over and over again even when she is told not to. No remorse and no emotion. She will only show emotion to manipulate to try and get something. Like she is sorry when she wants to do something. She has destroyed some property at school to and to be honest with you, She doesn't have friends. No one can stand her for long. It makes me so sad because she is such a sweetie but she is so controlling. I have tried to talk with her and work with her and role play but she doesn't get it. She doesn't seem to even notice when people are bad. I guess she senses something but doesn't read it right. For example we were at a practice for our year end show. She was trying to talk to one of the other little girls and was giving her a compliment. The little girl HEARD HER but didn't acknowledge her. I was so upset for her. I didn't say anything to her and she later told me she was upset and she said so and so doesn't want to be my friend. To be honest with you I understand why the child ignored her. It doesn't make it right. I just wish people would understand her and I wish she would understand how she pushes people away. It is such a touchy thing. I can only see it getting worse as she gets older. FASD Sucks!
With all this going on, I feel like I am drowning. I want to be the best parent possible but need help and just don't know where to get it. A lot of people just don't understand or even know how to help. Heck, I don't even know what to do sometimes.

Happy Mother's Day for Real?

How was every one's Mother's Day? Mine was low key. I did manage to sleep in until 9 am on Sunday and so I went to the second church service which is not my norm. I usually prefer the first service because it is not as crowded and it seems to have a more personal feel to it. This week it was not crowded because more people went to the first so they could get to dear old moms sooner. We went to our favorite diner for lunch and had to get back so my husband could sing in the 3 rd service.
My husband did surprise me on Saturday with a really pretty shirt he had picked out and the kids brought me flowers from school and homemade cards.
I did have one idiotic damper to my day. I had a woman come up to me and Wish me Happy Mother's Day FOR REAL. She said I am not officially a mother. Hold up sweetheart. I was a mother the moment I held my eldest in my arms. She had no tack and left me staring after her in disgust. I know I know, great Christian attitude but when I told her I was a mom when I got my first son, her reply was Well know you know what it really means to be a Mother. Believe me, it upset me but I took it as a grain of salt and concerned the source.


Gracie Update

The little sweet potato is now 9 1/2 months old. Where has the time gone? She went to the Dr. last week for her check up. I am happy to report that she is right on track with her milestones. She might be a little peanut but she is caught up to where she should be for a 9 month old. She is now sitting up, rolling over, getting into a sitting position from both her tummy and her back. She also likes to stand and hold on to the furniture. She can't pull herself up yet but that will be happening before we know it. I lowered her bed down today because she likes to sit up in there. She weighed in at 15.6 pounds and was 26 3/4 inches long. She is in the 5 percentile for weight still and in the 25% for height. The Dr. was not too concerned because she is staying steady in the 5 % curve.
She loves to eat and is quick to take whatever is in any one's hand. A little girl was eating something in church behind her and as soon as she heard the crumple of a wrapper her head jerks around to see what she is missing out on. We are introducing more textures and foods. She will now eat peas but still refuses fresh green beans. She will eat the baby food ones but not the other. I have to bury it in a serious amount of carrots for her to eat it. It is so fun watching her eat. She is very passionate about her food.
She is also starting to really play with her toys. A friend gave us an exersaucer and she adores it. It has a lot to do on it. She also loves her shape sorter. She loves to bang the shapes together and of course everything goes into the mouth.
She is starting to go to bed alittle earlier and she loves to sleep. She doesn't get up through the night and wakes up about 7 am. Sometimes later if the kiddos are quiet.
I love this stage.

Friday, May 09, 2008

Another FFF

Ok who said we could only do one. I love this picture of the butterfly when she was about 9 months.


This picture was taken about 3 years ago when we had our kiddos dedicated.